Hello everybody, little T was born a healthy 4.6kgs via C-section on the 23rd Feb. I tried the natural birth route but an hour in with induction contractions and a river of amniotic fluid around me, I jumped at the chance to have a C-section.
What a busy couple of months its been.
I have experienced two absolutely amazing life journeys in my 34 years, two journeys that were life changing in totally different ways. One Journey opened my mind to a whole new way of life and the other that made me appreciate how precious life itself is. Both taught me an unimaginable love that rather than split or shifted, stretched and grew to accommodate two little boys.
Their “origin stories” are unique within our family..one had to be found by us in a world of millions of people and one had to be physically removed from my body and I am aware how dramatic that actually sounds :).
For all the people who told me its different having “one on your own” I can honestly say it’s not different apart from the physical toll it takes on the body.
To the people who thought I was missing out on an experience “every woman needs to have”, I love my kid to bits but I could have gone my whole life without experiencing pregnancy and birth. My opinions remain the same as before regarding my choice to adopt.
Pregnancy did however make me appreciate the fact that somebody carried my son for 9 months knowing he would never be hers to keep. I mean I always appreciated this but after experiencing it myself, I appreciate it even more. Pregnancy is a scary time and a number of things can go wrong with you or your baby at any time. There is constant worry if the baby is alright and your life is basically put on hold in order to protect this life you are carrying. Your body stretches and changes so much that I would imagine that abortion would be an easy out for somebody who did not want to keep their baby. I am so grateful this lady did not take the easy way out. I complain about how bad pregnancy was but the truth is no matter how uncomfortable it was, I got a beautiful son at the end which made up for it.